Give Yourself a Little Love

We’ve all heard it said that we can’t love others unless we first love ourselves. It’s true. We can’t give something that we don’t have. So…even in the midst of busy days and hectic schedules, be sure you’re finding ways to give yourself a little love.

One of the best ways is to pamper yourself is with a day at the spa. Nothing soothes a weary spirit better than an hour-long massage, a relaxing facial, or a sweet-scented body scrub.

English: lemon balm Deutsch: Zitronenmelisse

Lemon balm

But, wait! Who’s got time to spend a day at the spa? Besides, professional spa treatments are costly. Sure, they’re worth it — if and when we have the time and money.  The good news is that we don’t have to go to an expensive spa to reap the benefits — and pleasures — of spa services. We can indulge ourselves at home with easy-to-make spa treatments for facials, body scrubs, and more.

And what about that massage? Set aside an hour — or two — to share with the one you love. Need I say more?  Include juice or wine, fruit, cheese, and good music, and you’ll be creating a memorable experience for both of you.

Here are a few resources you might enjoy:

Couples Massage DVD

Intimacy Spa – Sensual Massage for Couples

Plantlife Massage Oils

The Book of Massage

The Massage Bible

Music for Massage

Sacred Presence – Song for Loving Touch

In addition to soothing and sensual massages shared with one you love, you can give yourself a little love by creating your own body scrubs, facial masques, and more. These home-spa products are easy-to-make, and a true pleasure to use.

Bubble Baths and Sensual Soaks

One of the quickest, easiest, and most enjoyable bath product recipes in my collection is this ENERGIZING GREEN TEA SOAK. It’s perfect for those times when you need a break between your workday routine and a night on the town. It’s refreshing, too, after a long work-out.

  • Combine 1/2 cup Epsom salts with 1/4 cup loose green tea leaves. Add in two tablespoons of dried herbs. Rosemary and lavender work well. You can also try lemon balm or mint. Add two tablespoons of orange or lemon zest (store-bought or freshly-grated). Mix these ingredients well, then tie them into an old pair of nylon hose. Draw a warm bath, drop in the bath bag, and let it “steep” as the tub fills.

If you like lavender — and who doesn’t? — you’ll love this SOOTHING LAVENDER SOAK. It’s ideal before bedtime. Lavender has a fresh, clean scent that will relax you and send you off to sweet dreams.

  • Add 10 drops of lavender essential oil to a warm bath. Pour in 2 cups of warm whole milk.  Relax. Enjoy.

To nourish your body and easy dry skin, try this HEALTHY SEAWEED SOAK. Seaweed powders are available in health-food stores. You’ll find both kelp and dulse. Either can be used for this soak.

  • Fill your tub with hot water. While the tub fills, pour in 1/4 cup of dried seaweed powder. Allow the powder to steep for several minutes, then add 1/4 cup Epsom salts, 3 drops lemon essential oil, and 3 drops lavender essential oil, or substitute another favorite fragrance for the lavender.  Soak for 15-20 minutes.


Nothing smooths skin like a body scrub. Heat from the shower allows you to actually scrub away toxins.  This SWEET SUGAR SCRUB is one you’ll use often.

  • Mix 1 cup of white sugar, 1 cup of brown sugar, and 1-1/2 cups almond oil. Add in 2 drops of essential oil — your favorite fragrance. Massage into damp skin with fingers or with a soft scrubbing mitt.

Don’t forget your hands! This simple LEMON AND SUGAR HAND SCRUB not only relaxes your hands, but leaves your skin radiant and glowing.

  • Mix 1/2 cup white sugar with 1 tablespoon of sunflower oil and 1 teaspoon lemon juice. Massage onto damp hands. Rinse, pat dry, and apply your favorite hand moisturizer.

When you need a real pick-me-up, try this SPICY CINNAMON SCRUB. Follow with a hot shower and an overall application of a shea-butter moisturizer.

  • Mix 2 cups of light brown sugar with 1/2 cup olive oil and 1/4 cup honey. Add 1 teaspoon of vanilla extract and 1/8 teaspoon ground cinnamon. For an even spicier aroma, add a pinch of ground ginger. Mix all ingredients well, then apply with a mitt.

Foot Soaks

Like the fresh scent of the woods? This WOODSY FOOT SOAK will quickly become one of your favorite relaxation techniques.

  • Add about a teaspoon of sea salt to a basin of warm water, then add in 5 drops of spruce essential oil, a few lemon slices, and a sprig of fresh rosemary. Your feet will love you.

How about a cool soak? This CITRUS-MINT FOOT SOAK is sure to put a smile on your face. There’s just something about the aroma of oranges and lemons.

  • Fill a basin with cool water. Add slices of lemon and orange. Drop in a handful of fresh spearmint or peppermint. Soak your tired little tootsies for 10-15 minutes, then pat dry and massage in a moisturizing foot cream.


Although actually a treat for your entire body, this COOL CUCUMBER MIST can be used as a refreshing face mist. Be sure to store in the refrigerator. When spraying as a facial mist, keep eyes closed, and hold spray bottle 6-8 inches from your face.

  • Mix 1 cup of distilled water with 1/4 cup lemon witch hazel. Add 2 tablespoons strained cucumber juice. Pour the liquid into an attractive spray bottle. Use as a facial mist, or as an all-over body spray after a bath or shower.

Feeling fruity? Try this ZESTY GRAPEFRUIT FACIAL. It’s a fantastic way to wake-up your skin. It will leave you feeling fresh and invigorated.

  • Use a grater to grate the rind of 1 whole pink grapefruit. (Save the fruit segments to enjoy at breakfast or as a snack.) Add 3/4 cup plain, whole-fat yogurt to the rind. Mix well. Smooth the masque over your face and neck, avoiding the eyes. Leave on for 10 minutes while you stretch out and relax. Rinse with lukewarm water and pat your skin dry.

A Few Things to Keep in Mind

If you have sensitive skin, always test home-spa products before use. The best way to test is by rubbing a small amount behind one ear. If the product causes redness, swelling, itching, or any discomfort, better skip the treatment.

Where to find the ingredients?

Dried seaweed powders can be purchased at health food stores, as can a variety of oils, such as sunflower oil, almond oil, and coconut oil. Often these oils can also be found at pharmacies.

Essential oils can be purchased at many different retailers — check New Age shops in your area — or they can be ordered online.  I purchase all my essential oils from Sun’s Eye and have always been delighted with the products and service. If you’d rather purchase in person, you can visit their web site and find a list of retailers.

Dried herbs can be found on your grocer’s shelves and at specialty stores. Tip: Specialty stores will have greater variety and higher quality herbs.  For fresh herbs, nothing is better than your own little herb garden. During spring and summer months, you can also find fresh herbs at farmers’ markets or at retail nurseries.

Have fun with these treatments. Follow the recipes as given, or try your own personal variations. If you come up with a delightful little concoction, please share!

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Disclaimer: I feel I should add a standard disclaimer to this post. The information presented here is for educational purposes. No guarantees are made regarding the effectiveness of these home-spa products, nor am I assuming any responsibility for the use of them. As with any home treatment, use common sense. 

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You can make your home-spa experience even more enjoyable by using the following tips:

  • Dim the lights to create a soothing atmosphere. Light fragrant, scented candles or a stick of incense to add to the calming mood.
  • Put on soft, relaxing music or ambient natural sounds.
  • Use the softest, fluffiest towels you have.
  • Wear a loose-fitting robe.
  • Heat your robe and towels in the dryer for a few minutes before you begin your treatment.
  • Fix a favorite beverage to enjoy. Depending on the time of day, your mood, and your tastes, you might want to choose hot chocolate, herbal tea, red wine, or a hot, spiced cider.
  • Take time to fully enjoy the experience. Yes, we’re all short of time, but loving ourselves is vital to our emotional health — and to the well-being of all our relationships. It’s worth it to take a few extra minutes for yourself now and then. Your heart and soul — as well as your body — will be grateful.


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